When I opened my emails this morning there was one from a dear friend saying her lovely husband died in his sleep Saturday night. I want to be with her to listen and help but can’t as she lives where we lived before.
How would you support a friend going through this long distance?
Can you give her a call, or order a meal to be delivered to her.
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Seems that part of my reply disappeared. I am so sorry that your friend lost her husband.
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So sorry she lost her husband. I think a call would be kind. And a meal delivered would be great, but might wait a couple of weeks, if you think they might get the traditional meal deliveries from friends.
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I would agree about waiting a few weeks to deliver food - usually that's when she would likely struggle with getting regular meals. It happened to me and right off the bat, I was fed, but later people kind of forgot about me...Definitely do not back away from connecting with her, as she feels up to it. It can be as simple as a text, checking in. A sympathy card for some of us old school types is very appreciated, especially if you can share a memory of her late husband with her. Anything other than just letting the card company do all the talking. Don't wait to ask her what she needs. She won't come to you to announce that. And, always mention her husband by name - he still lives in her heart and life. Be the best listener you can be.
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