Yesterday I looked at the item that just kept getting transferred from one to do list to the next to do list and got realistic about the chances that I would actually do it!
I had items from my Mom's estate that still needed to be sold (old watches and jewelry) and thought I should put them on eBay. Yet I didn't do it.
Our cousin makes an early retirement income from managing estate sales and selling on eBay and at a flea market. He does a great job and recently handled my FIL's moving to assisted living sale. I decided to have him see what he could do with the items and help him out at the same time I could let go of the guilt of not acting.
That led to making decisions about more old jewelry, etc. that I had sitting in drawers. Most of it was items my Mom had given to me that had belonged to her, her parents or her grandparents. They meant something to her but not enough to keep them and I only used about 5% of them over the last 20 to 30 years. I packed them up too and shipped it all yesterday. Consider that project 37 completed out of the goal of 52 for the year.
I feel relieved.
I also decided that I need to look at other unfinished and optional projects the same way.
- Am I actually interested in finishing this project or do I just feel guilty for having it unfinished for so long?
- If I really want it done, can someone else do it for me?
- If I really don't care, then what am I going to do with the half finished project and supplies?
There are enough things in life that truly have to be done. Laundry, meal prep, cleaning, yard work, bill paying, exercise, preventive health care, etc. There are enough worthwhile and fun things to fill the rest of the days.
The decluttering of part of my Mom's stuff also led to going through a bit more of the things I had brought home from her house. Do I need Christmas cards sufficient for the next 10 years? I kept the ones I really like and the rest will go in the Friends of the Library book sale. Still have other things to go through but the progress felt really good.