Tuesday, January 31, 2012
No complaining - why is that so hard?
The bottom line is that it is a tough thing to stop complaining. There is a whole movement devoted to addressing this problem - A Complaint Free World - and the approach advocated by them works. It is basically self behavior modification. Yes, words are behavior and saying or thinking them is a tough habit to break. Backsliding is no surprise.
I'm back on track trying to think or talk with compassion about things I could complain about. The other challenge I am posing to myself is to listen to others' complaints with compassion and without trying to solve what I think is the problem driving the complaint. That is a tough one too. I'm going to try simply to acknowledge their unhappiness.
I do strongly believe that complaining and happiness are fundamentally incompatible. This is worth ongoing effort and makes other people's lives happier too.