A recent post by Mrs. Frugalwoods where she says:
is exactly what we are doing with our spending pattern.
As I told my younger son on our recent visit, the financial gifts we have been able to make to his brother and him have brought us so much joy and that is very true. That kind of spending is in alignment with our goals. The same is true of a recent large for us donation to a scholarship fund.
I clearly remember the times when I had so little money that I couldn't even go out for a cup of coffee or had to add up the cost of my groceries as I shopped with food stamps. Using a bicycle with a child carrier seat at our only transportation even in the pouring rain. There are many other examples. My not so huge student loans paid off finally when my older son was a senior in high school so of course there were no savings for his college expenses.
But thanks to our good fortune in being able to stay employed, earn well, stay healthy and save we are in a financially stable place where we can do as Mrs. Frugalwoods states.
So I will keep tracking our spending, washing out those ziploc bags, shopping at Goodwill for extra dinner plates, cleaning my own house and so on until I simply can't do it any more. And I will happily spend where it aligns with our goals and values. And I will continue to feel enormously grateful that I can do both.