Thursday, December 19, 2013

Taking the initiative for friendship

I am always ready to say "yes" if someone else asks me to do something with them - eager even. I tend to not reach out as much as I could to initiate spending time with friends and possible friends. This topic came up in my recent discussion with the Med School student I am mentoring. I decided to be more proactive and as usually happens each call/ask was met with a "yes" from the other person.

As a result I had lovely visits with friends two days this week - one over coffee and one at a holiday lunch. I need to do a lot more of this!

Do you tend to be the one to reach out to spend time with friends or do you wait to be asked?

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  1. I know I tend to wait for others to reach out. But I miss getting together with friends. I have to reach out more myself.

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    1. Please do reach out more as the reward is there. I think a lot of us are waiting for someone else to reach out and if we are similar to our friends then no one does LOL. I'm going to keep doing it and enjoy friendship more.

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  2. This is my weakness and I find in retirement that I am not minding being alone. I think the more I don't mind, the more I will be alone until I suddenly WILL mind! I know I need to be more proactive. I resolve in the New Year to get myself out there more!

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    1. My resolution too! I can rely too much on the dog and Hubby for companionship LOL.

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    2. I know and I have THREE dogs! LOL

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