After 6 months of trying to figure out how to happily move near our little granddaughter we have concluded that we just can't in the current housing market in the East Bay of N. Cal. In fact the market has gotten even more frenzied than it was just 6 months ago.
Our idea of living further away in Davis, CA seems a non-starter too as the commute time was much longer than predicted even though we made the trip on 3 different days and at different times. We may check it out again in the fall to see what it is like with 35,000 university students in residence but given all the developments sprouting between Davis and Berkeley the commute time would only get worse. The housing market is much easier there though.
So where does that leave us? We are brainstorming ways to visit for longer stretches without camping out at our son's house during their work week. Perhaps visit a weekend then take a mini-vacation in another area nearby and then come back for another weekend? Rent an AirB&B for a month? Rent a vacation home and invite the family to join us? Babysit during school breaks? Join them for children's theater outings? We have decided for what it would cost us to buy a smaller home in N Cal we could spend a lot on visits LOL.
We all have our thinking caps on. (And where the heck did that saying come from?)
If you have any ideas on how to be a well connected long distance grandparent I'd love to hear about it!!!
We do like our current house but are feeling a bit isolated and don't really enjoy living in an age restricted community although people are very friendly and kind.
On the family front, the good news is that our other son and DIL are still living in S Cal so we get to see them quite a bit and that is lovely. In fact we will go to Pasadena on Sunday and take them out to lunch to visit before they head off on vacation. My Hubby also has 2 aunts who are in there 90's and live alone that we try to see regularly.
We are determined to get ourselves busier and happier with daily life here! Part of that will be to issue more invitations to others and entertain more. Planning a weekly outing especially if it is a new experience or exploring a new area will help too. I will also create a weekly routine to make sure I have plans and tweak it until it is comfortable and energizing. Hubby is going to make sure he has OLLI classes one or two days a week although I don't see any in the fall schedule that I want to take.
We are going to continue to take care of the little fixes and improvements we would make to our current home to get it ready to sell and then enjoy them ourselves. Today the frig was repaired so we can use the water dispenser again. I still have to replace one of the shelves in the door but I now know where to go to get it. The repairman ordered it but was sent the wrong part.
We made a deposit to finish the remodeling of our smaller bathroom as the previous owners only did it halfway! That will mean the whole house is updated although not upscale. I am going to fix up the guest bedroom too so it is more appealing in terms of decor.
So there it is - our plans until, or if, there is a recession that causes a housing downturn that makes moving a practical option!