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Friday, October 3, 2025

Ending September/Starting October - Life Admin completions, ocular migraine, tariffs

As longtime readers know I can procrastinate quite well on life admin that has no clear deadline 😊 This past week some of it got done though!

1. Most important (to the dog) first - favorite toy Fluffy Puppy's "arm wound" was sutured and it is ready for rambunctious play once again. I also mended a shirt that didn't have the same level of excitement result lol.

2. We have been married for over 4 decades and never had a certified marriage license. We thought what was handed to us after the wedding was all there was and no one told us differently at the time. Once I realized we needed one for the survivor to navigate bureaucracy upon one of our deaths, I took that out and there on the back in faint blue print were instructions as to how to order a certified copy.

Well the county claimed they didn’t have it and said the proof of marriage probably was never turned in by the officiant. I finally got the idea of checking the state online marriage records through a genealogy site and there we were so it was filed correctly. The state records office came through after another notarized request was submitted. The document print is a bit weird so we figure it was printed from a microfilm copy. At least we now have one and know who can produce it if we ever need another.

3. Some contact info on our Advance Health Care Directives is out of date so I pulled up Kaiser’s version which also has a Life Care Planning section with deep questions about receiving care or not under different circumstances. I talked through my answers with my older son & DIL when they were visiting to clarify my thoughts were being communicated.

I mentioned to younger son that my bottom line was that whomever had to make these difficult decisions should make ones they will be able to live with. He said that is what he put in his form when they did their documents. I sent the draft to Hubby so we can discuss and finalize it. Just talking about filling it out led to discussions we hadn’t had before as we have some different views on what we would want.

The final steps are to get it witnessed by 2 non-family members or notarized, submit it to Kaiser for inclusion in my medical record and provide copies to my designated proxies.

4. I ordered the laundry detergent sheets we use that are made in Canada and the price has gone up 11%. I'm sure we are seeing tariff increases across much of what we buy but this was easily calculated. 

I also paid our property tax first installment and credit card bills, contributed to the grand-girls college funds, and donated to the county food bank as those are not automated.  I also did month end financial reconciling and as usual felt very grateful for our situation at our age.

5. Wednesday morning I had an ocular aura migraine that first made me think the computer screen was going bad. It only lasted less than 10 minutes but was really weird with moving wavy lines of diamond shapes in the side vision of both eyes. Hubby came to call the Kaiser help line to see if I should get examined and casually mentioned he had had the same thing on and off for several years in one eye - what!!! 

Mine ended and I felt ok so went to Pilates and called the ophthalmologist after lunch as by then I had a bad headache. No need to see a doctor but now I know what additional symptoms would mean to do so. Tylenol and a long nap made me feel somewhat better. A strange experience. 

PLUS - Cornbread and blueberry muffins were baked, chili made and other meals cooked, stove fan filters washed, exercises done and all that kind of stuff.

Friday, September 26, 2025

September week 4: Farmer's Market excursion

On Sunday we took the 8 year old grand-girl to the Farmer's Market. The 3 of us had a good time!

Our first encounter with the monthly puzzle exchange table at the fancy farmer's market was awesome! We brought one that no one wanted to do, granddaughter brought 2 and her Mom sent one. Different ones were happily picked out by granddaughter as replacements. What a great idea!

We treated her to a fancy brownie and fresh juice plus red grapes for her household. I just got spinach, cucumbers and red grapes for us. Hubby got us both pastries.

The live music was upbeat jazz tunes - very nice.

Granddaughter ran into a friend which made her happy.

And the only other news is that nothing I ordered online worked out so will be returned and I got my COVID vaccine. As usual I lost a day to my reaction to it but still very happy to have gotten it.


Monday, September 22, 2025

Jolted awake by earthquake

I wasn’t able to go back to sleep after a short jolting earthquake just before 3am. Apparently it was centered near the UC Berkeley campus less than 2 miles away.

No damage to our house. The auto gas shutoff was not activated. No car alarms going. The dog went back to sleep fairly soon. 

Just a minor adjustment in the Hayward fault so whew for us at least!

Friday, September 19, 2025

September week 3: Point Reyes, trees, shopping

 




We had an outing to Point Reyes Station for a yummy lunch, abalone shell and antler totems, a cypress tunnel leading to a decommissioned maritime Morse code receiving station in the National seashore area, and delicious buffalo milk soft serve ice cream swirl cones. It was fun and also a lot of driving but part was through stately redwoods in a state park. Lunch was an Open-faced Veggie Sandwich with hummus, cucumbers, tomato, avocado, pumpkin seeds, toasted sesame & almonds on rustic batard and absolutely delicious and filling.

A neighbor's rapidly growing large oak tree was hanging way over our fence so we had it pruned back, a small oak tree/large shrub removed at a front property line, and some trees we planted pruned to a good shape for going forward. They did a great job and provided some education too to help us do some things ourselves going forward.

I continued my fall and winter clothes shopping project. 3 brick and mortar stores = no purchases. Checked off sweatpants with a pair of Amazon Essentials for $15.66 (running total for 2 tops & sweatpants = $31.91). Placed a large costly online order from JJill which I know fits me so now it is about comfort, color and style.

I'll return all from JJill that doesn’t work to the store. Then back to the two thrift stores worth ongoing visits. I also learned about a SF company, Marine Layer, that has a Berkeley store so I will check them out for sizing and style. They certainly understand the weather here.

Help please - I want a pair of very comfortable slip on walking shoes or sneakers but not Sketchers as my feet don’t like them. I’m considering trying Orthofeet but looking for other suggestions.

And lots of little stuff:

- Pilates is back on - yeah!
-I found yet another nearly new pencil on the sidewalk. We do live near a middle school and lots of kids walk home. We do not need more pencils, but they don't need to go into the storm drain.
- The Grocery Outlet was out of ground turkey so we had chicken burgers instead.
- Leftover green beans prompted me to remember how much we like Niçoise salad so we had that for dine once during our 3 days of summer weather this week.
- This summer has made me wonder if I should give away our patio umbrella and stand. That and the wind tunnel effect on our patio as the wind heads through the Golden Gate, across the bay and straight to our back yard. Haven’t even hauled it out once this season.
- Picking up the older grandgirl from swim team practice this afternoon as it is date night for son and DIL. Toddler stays at nursery school for kid’s night out which I think is a marvelous offering.


Tuesday, September 16, 2025

My Fall Personal Curriculum

I seem to have started on this even though the planning isn't finished so it is a work in progress. I really want some non-reading/non-screen real life activities added so that is my research project next. I've always loved and pursued research and learning so this idea of more structured learning really appeals to me. 

Anyway, right now this is where my plan stands.

Exploration

Because it is part of my theme for my 76th year and part of my personality and life.

READ

  • Philosophy for Polar Explorers (book purchased)

  • For fun fictional pairing with The Ministry of Time by Kaliane Bradley (on hold at library)

WRITE 

  • How to relate this to my 76th year and beyond


Detective Stories in Literature (Golden Age Detectives vs LA Noir vs Indian/Chinese vs fan fiction)

Because this is what I read most of and I enjoy the Victorian/Early 20th Century settings.

READ

  • In the Shadow of Agatha Christie (checked out from library)

YOUTUBE

  • The Macabre Birth of the Detective Story Genre - Lady of the Library


Opium, the British Empire & World Economics

Because opium is often a part of period mystery fiction and I’m interested in historical global impacts of human behavior.

READ

  • Smoke and Ashes by Amitav Ghosh

  • Babel by R F Kuang


How to improve Bone Strength

Because I have osteopenia and do not want to take supplements as my body doesn’t react well to them.

YOUTUBE

  • Do You Really Need Calcium Supplements? What Science Says! - The Bone Builder System

  • Many potential bone strengthening/osteoporosis exercise YouTubes to select from

PRACTICAL APPLICATION

     Create/find a beginner bone strength exercise program to follow 3 days a week

     Continue to increase dietary calcium consumption

Sunday, September 14, 2025

Why is clothes shopping on my self care list?


Thrift shop finds. I know I'll wear the grey one but the top one is not my usual so we'll see!

A pretty mundane to do most of the time especially if you don’t like shopping for clothing but do like to have nice, well fitting, flattering clothes to wear - such an approach avoidance area for me!

But, and this is big to me. I’m only 5ft 3in tall and gained 10 pounds in the first few months after we moved 2+ years ago and have only now started to very slowly make progress in dropping it. 

So some things are tight, some things I'm just very tired of wearing, almost everything is 2+ years older and I am clear that I need a somewhat different wardrobe for the weather here as well as my current lifestyle. 

All to say, I need some new clothes and I made a plan to shop and end up happy with the outcome. I’m considering this is part of better self care.

I decided to try a seasonal color palette a wardrobe capsule again as I did when I first turned mostly gray back in Atlanta - much grayer now. Mostly I will live in jeans as I have a very casual life right now, but occasionally I would like some smart casual slacks and appropriate tops. 

I also need to make sure I have dog walking, lounge, exercise and sleepwear. My outerwear and shoes will do for another season and I have rain gear for dog walking. September is really a continuation of summer here so my plan is for October thru December.

I started by pulling items I have that fit me, my colors and the coming season. That was 9 tops for various weather (2 tees, three 3/4 sleeve, 2 long sleeve and 3 sweaters), 1 cardigan, 5 bottoms. I demoted several tops to lounge and will see if I wear them. If not, I may upgrade what is in my emergency GO bag.

That left me needing several long sleeve tops, a cozy cardigan, and hopefully also nice slacks. I think that will be a good size Fall capsule for my needs. I didn't give myself a budget so we will see how much I spend.

There are few in person shopping options nearby where I can find clothes that will fit and flatter so I opted to try the 3 local better thrift stores because at least then you know tops won’t shrink! There are also the benefits of seeing a wider range of brands, being environmentally conscious and helping out the charities they support. The costs are low so if I end up not wearing them it’s no big deal. I found the long sleeve top and cotton sweater shown above for $16.25 total.

Next was some online browsing of stores/brands that have worked for me in the past. Then starting trips to stores that are within a reasonable driving distance. Then I will head back to 2 thrift stores to see what they have added. Online shopping is going to be my last resort as the whole order and return cycle is annoying. It is a project for sure from my point of view.

I’m quite curious how other people approach clothes shopping? I used to enjoy it when stores were better stocked and I could always easily find something that fit and flattered me.

 

Friday, September 12, 2025

September week 2 - Getting on with my September plans

asked my older granddaughter if she wanted to go to the local bookstore Sunday afternoon and she did. She brought the gift card we gave her last Easter and got a paperback Harry Potter book 6 for herself and a book for her sister leaving a bit of money on the gift card for later. 

I ordered the book above that my library didn’t have as a start to my Fall Personal Curriculum. The description is intriguing and on target for my 76th year theme.

A thoughtful and eloquent meditation that invites us to treat life like a grand exploration and illuminates the possibilities that await us when we do - from “a philosophical adventurer - or perhaps an adventurous philosopher” (The New York Times).

Monday we took the dog on a Canine Adventure which for him was simply a ride in the car and a sniff walk around a new park. He had a big doggy smile.

I’ve been working on my Fall Personal Curriculum and enjoying the process. I’ll share soon.

And I'm thankful the afternoons have been lovely weather so we can open windows and enjoy airing out the house. 

The little stuff:

  • Hubby got a car door seal strip that was dislodged to go back in place,
  • He also took the kick plate off the dishwasher and found we do not have a leak despite an occasional noise from the pump so, despite the outlet for it being behind the it so not to code, we will not be replacing it now, 
  • I used up some of the bounty of salsa in the frig making Spanish rice with brown rice (ok but won’t be a repeat lol), 
  • It rained Tuesday (!) so I wiped down the wet car saving a $10 car wash, 
  • My Pilates trainer hurt her back so no session Wednesday saving $$ but darn. Yesterday I hurt my own back bending wrong to pick up the dog’s bowl (sigh).
  • Found 35 cents in a parking lot for a YTD total of $20.98 
  • We gave the leftover ice cream and whipped cream to the family across the street. We were give a gag of guavas by someone else and Hubby says they are ok on yogurt. Not my favorite so he can have them all!


Ending September/Starting October - Life Admin completions, ocular migraine, tariffs

As longtime readers know I can procrastinate quite well on life admin that has no clear deadline 😊 This past week some of it got done thoug...